Honoring Others

I read an entry in a daily meditation book today, written by a cancer survivor. 

He wrote this about how his way of being changed post-cancer…

I enter every meeting with another being saying to myself, “If I only have this time on earth with this person, if I may never see them again, what is it I want or need to ask, to know?  What is it I want or need to say?”

This is quite the opposite of how most of us live.  We fully expect to see our friends, family, coworkers and acquaintances again and again.  Think of your day today.  Who did you meet?  Who did you speak to?  How would your conversation have gone if you knew today were your last encounter?  What would you have said or asked? 

Here are a few of my encounters from today, and some things I would have said…

family next to me in church –We really didn’t have time to visit, but your family is beautiful.  Your little toddler girls swaying together to the music were so sweet to watch, and your adorable baby boy with the huge brown eyes that sparkle made me wish we never lost that spirit of pure love.  As I stood next to my 20 year old, 5’ 10” daughter, all that I could think of is the song “Don’t Blink”.  Enjoy every minute.

Mona – Thank you.  Thank you for always giving, going the extra mile, and smiling.  You always have the most warm, welcoming smile.  You do so much for our church and our community, with so much grace and humility.  You are an inspiration.

Michelle – I don’t really “know-know” you, but I feel like I’ve known you all my life.  You are funny, kind, generous, and just great to be around.  You are an amazing mom, and that is clearly your most cherished role in life.  Trust yourself.  You’re doing great.  Keep being and sharing your awesomeness.

Amanda – It is so cool to watch you teach.  You teach like you live… really open to experience fully whatever the moment brings.  I love how engaged you are, how funny you are, and how you live and love this life.  Keep growing and living big!

Lindsay – My funky friend.  You always make me smile, or crack me up… usually both.  You know that I think you’re amazing.  I know that you know that we’re both exactly where we’re meant to be.  I’m just glad to call you my friend.  Firework. That’s you.  Shine on.

My kids – (I can’t say all that I want to say in this blog.  My kids would kill me, or die of embarrassment.)  I love each one of you beyond words.  Being your mom is the greatest gift.  I mean that.  You probably can’t fully get that until you become a parent, but it’s true.  Always choose love over fear.  Trust yourselves, you’re awesome.  Do what you love.  Know that all that you need is already within you.  Keep the faith.

I love you Hailey.  I love you Reid.  I love you Carter. 

Who did you encounter today? How would your exchange have been different if it were the last time you ever saw them?  What might you have said/asked? 

I believe people come in and out of our lives for a reason.  Imagine that every person you meet has something to share with you to help you on your journey.  Imagine that you could help, through word or deed, each person you encounter.  What if that were your purpose?  How would that change how you see and interact with others?  Honor the exchanges, even the little ones.  Every life matters.  Every person could use a lift from time to time.  Be the one.  Make a difference.  Today.